When facing a custody battle, most men may feel that they are at a disadvantage when it comes to obtaining custody of their children. While no two cases are the same, we have listed a few helpful tips that can assist you in putting your best foot forward.
Do everything you can to keep your children out of it.
Although it may be important to discuss your ongoing divorce with your children, it is not necessary for them to know every single detail pertaining to your case. You should do everything within your power to isolate your children from any emotional strain and protect them as much as possible. You never want to make your children feel as if they have to choose between mommy or daddy. Do not ask your children which parent they wish to live with post-divorce. This can be very awkward and stressful for your children. The family court judges will not look favorably upon a parent who appears to be pressuring the child to pick sides.
Stay involved in the day-to-day lives of your children as much as possible.
During a hearing regarding custody, the court is going to want to see that you are an active part of your child’s life. This means that you should be attending school events, extra-curricular activities, doctor’s appointments, parent-teacher conferences, recitals, and all other important activities that your children engage in. If you are not being made aware of these activities by your wife, call the school for a calendar, call the doctor’s office directly, do everything that you can to stay involved. Don’t wait until a month before court to start getting involved. As a parent, you should already be partaking in these activities as much as possible.
Try to limit your social media.
We have seen time after time cases where social media can make or break a case. Do your best to limit, if not delete, any and all social media sites until your divorce and/or custody issues have been resolved. The last thing you need is some silly post you’ve made to be taken out of context during your case that paints you in a negative or disfavoring light.